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Letting go 9 Years, 2 Months ago  
Hi you will have seen by my recent postings that my husband John lost his battle with cancer on 4 Sept 2009. What I found strange was that I did not know what his actual condition was until the last 2 weeks of his life, it was probably part of the diagnosis but like many of you it takes time to get your head around these horrible words. Anyway, John was diagnosed with a Left Temporal High Grade Glioma.
John spent the last 6 weeks of his life in hospital after gettting a throat infection which started with thrush because of the steriods but was not treated, it then went onto his chest and then into his kidneys. During the first 2 weeks in hospital I went to see him and the nurses told me he had refused to eat, drink, wash and take his tablets. This was obviously a very bad day for him so his sister-in-law and myself jollied him through. We asked if he had decided if he was going up to heaven or down to the devil with the cigars and the dancing girls as the dancing girls wouldn't want to know him if he was not clean. We got him to take his tablets, washed and eat his lunch and he complained that we were trying to make him better but he had decided to die that day. Talking to him later that day I said it obviously wasn't his time and he replied 'how will I know when it is time' and I replied that he couldn't go yet as I wasn't ready (sounds selfish now). John's time came on Friday 4 Sept and when I went into see him I said 'It's time now and it's time for me to let you go' and it was the right time for both of us. He slept peacefully away and now I have his ashes to take on his final journey and say my final goodbye to the love of my life.
 
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Re:Letting go 9 Years, 2 Months ago  
Dear Irene,

{{HUGS}} It sounds like you gave John the best care anyone could wish for and please don't think you were being selfish, most of us need to reach a place where we know our loved one struggling with this disease has gone through enough. It is then that in our minds we know that letting them go is the kindest thing to do. John certainly sounds like he understood your needs just as you understood his and I am glad that he passed away peacefully.

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Re:Letting go 9 Years, 1 Month ago  
irene,
my deepest love and sympathy to you.
xgx
 
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My loving,giving and very handsome dad was 1st diagnosed with a gbm 4 in April 09.
He fought a very brave battle but only lasted 9 short months.
He passed away peacefully at home surrounded by his loving and dedicated family on 19th January 2010.
He remains my Hero x
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